After only 2 months of blogging, I'm starting to feel like I'm not good enough... This is probably just Satan attacking me at my weakest moment, but never-the-less, I've given him space for that, and that just has to stop!!
As a boutique owner, I've been deep within the world of social media for years... But I have been pushing product, and I was rarely in the pictures myself... However, as a fashion blogger, I have to sell myself... Meaning, basically, its my job to convince people that my life, my style, my clothes, my jewelry, etc. are good enough to be worth having... I have to put MYSELF out there!! I. Have. To. Be. Awesome. pretty much!!! But what if people don't like what I have to say... What if they don't "like" my posts... Does that make ME not worth having!?
As fashion bloggers, the content we spend a large portion of our lives putting together is scrolled through in milliseconds, and we give our followers the power to cast judgement on us in those factions of a second... THEN, we base our self-worth off of whether or not they double-tapped our picture... But not only us, others, like the brands we want to work with, base our worth (by every definition of the word) on whether or not our followers like our posts as well... Its a crying shame what this industry can do to a young woman!!
Don't get me wrong, I still enjoy this "job" very much!! I LOVE getting to share my favorite fashion finds with more than just my family and close friends LOL!! I have met some of the most amazing people in the past 2 months, and I can't wait to see who else will cross my path in the years to come!! But I do feel the need to send out a word of encouragement to the ladies in this community, and all women on social media in general... Guard your hearts!! Don't let anyone or anything make you feel less than you are!!!
Story time... There is a middle school girl I help teach on Wednesday nights at my church that, over time, admitted to me her need to be "liked" on social media... That she finds value and satisfaction in the number of likes that each of her Instagram posts get.... And did you hear me say she's a MIDDLE SCHOOLER!!? This social media driven world that we live in could easily cause girls to stumble and fall because the Instagram Algorithm just didn't let enough people see her post... It's insane!!! And body image issues are starting to affect girls younger and younger now!!
I personally am struggling with it because I am getting less likes now with 1400 followers than I did when I had 350 followers... Can someone please explain that to me!!? Please understand that I did't just say that to ask for more likes LOL, but to explain that if you are feeling this way, you ARE NOT ALONE!!
And bathing suit season coming up... Don't even get me started!! YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!
So... this week, I've been trying to dwell on my favorite passage of scripture... Psalms 139! Its funny how often I forget about the worth I have in Jesus since I myself designed a shirt with this very scripture on it to remind other ladies... Verse 14 reads, "I will praise Thee, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made..." Earlier in the chapter it says that He knit me together in my mother's womb and later it says that He knew all of my days before I was born...
Y'all, without getting too spiritual or "religious" on you, I just needed to share with you that you (and I, both) don't have to care what this world throws at us, whether that be body shaming, or cyber bullying, or losing followers, or brands not taking time to even email you back!! Girls, we are all made PERFECTLY!! Fearfully and wonderfully... And whether or not you look perfect by this world's standards and you have a 30% engagement rate on social media, you can still be an amazing fashion/lifestyle/beauty blogger... Just be yourself, and know that God loves you... And that no one else really matters, so don't give up and keep on writing your blog because someone out there might need to hear what you have to say... Just like someone else may have needed to hear this tonight!
Love you all!!
XOXO - Rachel
You can purchase this beauty, designed by me - HERE ($27 - & $7 of your purchase goes to a local non-profit that helps rescue girls from the sex trade - Lighthouse 4 Life)